You may not be able to control all of the things that life throws at you, all the slings and arrows, the sticks and stones, the haves and the have nots, but you can control how you react to them. How you allow them to change you. You may not be able to stop yourself from being wounded, when life comes at you red in tooth and claw, but you can choose how to define the stories all your scars tell. You can choose what kind of person you want to be. You can let life grind you down, keep you down, and just crawl your way through it.
Or you can put in the work and strive for something better. To be something better. And it’s a lot of work, make no mistake. Staying down is easy. Getting up and moving forward, choosing the higher path, it’s so much work. It hurts sometimes. Sometimes there are tears. Sometimes there are a lot of tears. Sometimes it feels like the hurting and the madness is never going to end. But it will end, if you push through it. If you put in the work.
I’m not saying you have to be relentlessly positive all the time, every single day. You will stumble. You will fall. You will scuff your knees, scrape your palms, bloody your nose. Sometimes you will hurt so bad you’ll want to just curl up and call it quits. Game over. Surely it will never hurt worse. But you will heal. You will get better, if you choose to. And that’s the trick: choosing to be better. To learn from the fall, from the pain. Choosing to take the hurt and the bad things and turn them into lessons because that’s what failure and pain and the twists in life’s path are: lessons. Moments we can use to learn from and grow from and be better.
But only if we make that choice, and put in that effort, and choose (notice that’s the key yet?) to pick ourselves up and move forward. And it all starts with choosing to be positive. Deciding that you want life to be better, and then taking an active part in shaping yourself and the world around you.
Do better. Be better.